I am not sure when exactly it happened, but somewhere in my early adult life (probably after making TONS of really bad life decisions) I realized and it really sunk in that if I don’t take action to create the life I want… it would never happen. I realized that the only one to blame when I am not achieving my dreams, is myself if I don’t take any action. I realized that life is way too short to never try out of fear of failure.
I once heard the saying “Faith and Fear cannot exist at the same time”. That is bullshit. I walk through fear with faith all the time. The fear is there, it is the faith that gets me through it. Knowing that if I don’t walk through the fear, there is no chance of change.
This past year has not gone anything like what I expected. There have been twists and turns and frankly, it has been one hell of a rollercoaster.
There has been so much change, so many opportunities, so many ideas, so many goals, that at times, I find myself almost paralyzed with fear. Fear of making the wrong decision. Fear of taking the wrong opportunity and leaving the “right” one behind. But another thing I’ve learned over the years is that the best way to ensure you are making the wrong decision, is to not make one at all.
So what happens when you wander down the “wrong” corridor and have to admit that it’s not the right one?
What a huge blow to ego to admit that you are not heading where you want to be. Or even worse, that you’ve regressed.
What happens when your life just doesn’t seem to fit you anymore?
We’ve all been there. It’s not easy.
Sometimes it can seem easier to stick with the decision, the path and let it continue to pull you backwards. Just telling yourself that it’s the bed you’ve made.
But the sooner I admit that I am not heading where I want to, the sooner things can get better. The sooner I have more joy and peace in my life. The sooner things fall back into balance and I begin to meet my own needs again.
It can be as simple as having an exercise routine and realizing you haven’t worked out in 2 weeks. Falling into the habit of putting off the gym until “tomorrow”. Or it could be as big as going through college, starting a career, only to find that it makes you absolutely miserable.
We all have permission to start over. We have permission to do what is best for ourselves.
And the thing is that the paths that I’ve taken have never been truly wrong. They’ve been part of the process in finding the right ones.
The important thing is to be true to yourself. To be clear with what you really want. Once you clear away all of the noise, the pressure, the “shoulds”, things come into focus and it is so much easier to see what the next step is. Sometimes it is just being brave enough to really look.
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How have you found the strength to switch paths in your own life when things didn’t quite seem to fit?
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