It takes constant surrender, connecting with a power much larger than myself, turning off my head, and moving my feet to make any real progress in life. In other words, I have to get out of my own way.
I am a thinker.
In the time since my last blog post, I have mentally prepared about 15 others that never made it to the web because the ideas bounce around in my head until they eventually floats off into oblivion.
I am the person that if not centered with the world around me, I will look at you, determine what you must be thinking about me, then be upset with you based on what I have decided you think about me. I mean how dare you think what I think you think about me, you don’t even know me!
That is one of my favorite examples of just how off course I can get if I am not in a place of peace and centering, simply because it is so absurd, but so true.
This is why having balance is so important for me.
I don’t want to be the person scowling at everyone they encounter. I want to be the one who looks at another person, regardless of who they are, and authentically feels peace, love, and well-wishes for them. Truth be told, deep down, there is potential for either in me.
How do I choose which one will emerge?
It is the one I nurture. When I am trying to control everything in my life, it is like trying to swim up stream. Who wouldn’t be miserable always fighting a futile battle? There is very little in this world I have control over. I can control my actions, I can control my reactions, but even those take practice and discipline.
I have to surrender. Right now, my life is crazier than it has ever been. At least good crazy. I feel like I have very little balance. I have an endless list of things that ought to be done, that need attention, that I want to do. It isn’t going to calm down any time soon.
In the past, I would just keep thinking “I just need to get through this and then things will be better”. That is not the mindset I have today. I want to be present in my life. Yes it is crazy, but I have worked VERY hard for my crazy life! From camping trips, to doTERRA trips, to my kids starting school (which comes with it’s own crazy), getting married this week, then more trips, then eventually ending the year with a honeymoon, all while working, growing, and taking care of my normal responsibilities, it makes my body clench just looking at it.
The coolest thing about it…
I don’t have to do it all today. I don’t even have to this week. There is nothing in that mix that I need to figure out. If I just shut my mind up and focus on what is right in front of me, right now, it all gets done.
I have found that feelings are rarely a true reflection of what really is @ashliepappas
Here is a secret: My life looks just the same to an outsider whether I feel like it is one breeze away from completely falling apart or I feel like I have life by the cojones.
How I feel is not relevant to reality. It doesn’t make a difference at all unless I act or don’t act based on it. What it is relevant to, is my level of peace. Usually my peace is in direct correlation with my level of surrender.
When I am not wasting all of my time figuring out how things are going to work, what may or may not happen, and taking action based on what actually ought to be done in the moment. When I am fully present in my life. I can’t explain why, but balance manifests.
I do keep a daily task list, a schedule, and goals to keep on track, but they are also always changing. I have to remember that everything is always tentative. If something changes, I have to let it go and move on. Otherwise I get into a spiral of how it affects my day, why it should not have changed, and so on. None of it makes a difference, it is what it is. That is what I have to work with.
My tips to you to bring more balance into your life right now:
Do not waste time or energy focusing on what isn’t real or what you can’t really control. It is amazing how much time you have to nurture all the areas of your life when you aren’t trying to take responsibility for and run the whole damn world!
Right now I have a ton on my plate and am overwhelmed. If I am lying to myself and trying to pretend like I am superwoman, it leads to me piling more onto my plate that I realistically can’t take on.
I’m not perfect, you aren’t perfect, mistakes will be made. It’s not an excuse, it is a fact. Learn from it, take action when necessary, and move on. It’s hard to find balance while wasting time stewing on the past. Which leads me to:
This goes for time, emotional, ect. I want to help everyone, I want to be there for everyone. Truth is though, I know my limits. It is my responsibility to make sure I am taking care of myself.
It is NOT selfish to take care of yourself. If the oxygen masks in a plane come down, you put yours on first then help others. In life, we are of no use and can not be of effective service to others if we are not taking care of ourselves.
I have to know my priorities and check in with them regularly. For example, spirituality and work are both priorities. Sure I can get about an hour more of time in at work in a day if I skip my morning centering routine and my evening reflection, but the quality is shotty and I am not a kind or rational person. I have to dedicate time to each priority and stick to it.
It is great to have goals, action plans, and ideals, it is necessary to not be stagnant. Just keep in mind that life happens and sometimes we have to adapt accordingly. I can waste time trying to think of way to change what I actually have no control over and get super frustrated, or I can work with what I have.
Practice embracing these 7 things and you will find that you life almost naturally comes into balance. At first, if you aren’t used to doing them, it may be a little weird or uncomfortable, but I promise over regular practice, this gets a ton easier. Soon, after a little while of doing these things consistently, you will find that practicing them is as natural as breathing!
What do you do to bring more balance into your life? Share in the comments below!
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